Forgive!!!
I know from experience it is NOT easy to forgive people who hurt you but God
will help you like He helped me and STILL helping me!!! I know, again from
personal experience, people are SOMETHING ELSE but don't allow their actions to
hinder you from your destiny!!!! Unforgiveness will hinder you if YOU allow it
to; you have to forgive people!!! Jesus lets us know if we don't forgive others
their trespasses, God will not forgive us!!! We are forgiving because God says
to forgive; it is our act of obedience to God - forgiveness has nothing to do
with others but it causes us to obey God and to become whole!!! People will be
people and when God reveals to you the type of person a person in your circle
is, it is your choice to keep them in your circle or let them go in love; let
God lead you before getting entangled with people!!!
Even if the person is saying
they are a Christian that does not mean anything; does that person believe the
Word as you do or do they have their own belief system? The Bible asks a
question, "How can two walk together unless they are agreed?" No,
they cannot!! I say this still in reference to forgiving; if you know a person
has a reputation of hurting people and abusing people, why put them in your
circle? I have learned to let God lead me in friendships and everything else
because my destiny is too great to be hindered by unforgiveness!!! Your destiny
is also too great to to allow people to cause you to harbor unforgiveness which
leads to bitterness setting up in your heart!!! It is not worth it!!!!
I would rather be by myself
than to have people in my life who are going to cause me grief to the point of
doing something that cause me to constantly struggle with forgiving them!!!
This is no joke!! Going through the process of forgiving someone is not an easy
task because that seed they have planted in you has to be dug out by God and it
is not always a smooth process!!!
Unforgiveness starts with you
making up your mind to forgive the person who offended you, then with you
asking God to help you because nine out of ten times, that same person is going
to keep doing something to offend you (because they are NOT delivered and is
not thinking about being delivered - they don't think nothing is wrong with
them) and you already dealing with the first thing they did wrong to you, now
you got another, etc. OH PLEASE!!! If YOU don't stop it, you will get this
vicious cycle of being abused (it is a form of abuse) by this person you don't
want to cut loose!!! I have learned people can only do as much to you as YOU
allow them too!!!
Yes, you love everybody but
everybody cannot be in your inner circle of friends!!! God has been teaching me
that for years and I am just learning it after going through years, and years,
and years of being hurt and abused by people - most of them were by
"christians!!!!"; that is why I am telling you this to spare you!!
Be led by God and you will
not go wrong!!! Ask God to give you that heart that easily forgives because in
this crazy, mixed up world, you definitely going to need it!!!!
You can do something to help
yourself, to prevent from getting into these crazy friendship, relationships,
etc., DISCERN, DISCERN, DISCERN AND
DISCERN SOME MORE!!!!!! Listen to the Holy Spirit!!! Another thing, don't
put YOUR happiness in the hands of a human being; no man or woman can make you
happy!!! Happiness comes from the inside of you and begins with the joy of the
Lord!!!! The JOY OF THE LORD IS OUR
STRENGTH; not the joy of Jack or Jill!!! Stop relying on people to make you
happy and to satisfy you!!! There are certain things people are incapable of
doing because they are fallible; that is why it is so important to be a whole
person - to walk in the wholeness Jesus has died to give us!!! I am still talking
about preventing unforgiveness from setting up in our hearts!!
IF we do not look to people
to give us what ONLY God can give, we will be less of a target to people who
prey on needy people!!! When we become a prey to unscrupulous people, we get
offended, hurt, and unforiveness sets in, and if we don't get rid of it, the
principality of bitterness takes root in our hearts!! NO FRIENDSHIP OR RELATIONSHIP OF ANY KIND IS WORTH THIS; don't be
so desperate for friendships or relationship that you will allow yourself to be
continuously hurt or abused!!!!
God loves us and wants to see
us walking in the liberty of Christ and He will help us but what we can do,
let's do, and stop putting the responsibility for our lives onto other people; looking
for them to make us happy; looking for them to do this or that for us; then
when they cannot or will not meet our expectations, we get offended, hurt,
angry, etc. at them (this is the flip
side of the unforgiveness coin - this is the side where WE becomes offended and
holds unforgiveness against the person because OUR needs were not met)!!!
People are INCAPABLE of meeting ALL our needs; ONLY God can do that and God is
NOT going to give us 100% of the things we ask for!!! Come on now; let's be
reasonable!!!!!
Search your heart and see who
you need to forgive and decide to forgive them and you keep deciding until it
is done; ask God to help you - He will but you first must make a conscious
decision to forgive!!! Again, on the other side of the coin, also, search
yourself and see who YOU need to ask to forgive you!! Sometimes we have hurt
others with our words or actions and need to go back to the person and ask them
to forgive us; but we can only do this if we have a forgiving heart, a heart
that is open to God so He can speak to us to get things right with people!! I
know I have wondered, "How can some people not know they hurt me"?
How? Because their heart is not opened to God; some people will never give you
an apology because they feel like they did or said nothing wrong - those people
you chalk up and swallow hard and ask God to help you forgive them anyway.
Just recently I had to do
that because a person who I know said some hurtful words about me to someone else
and act as if it was nothing; I had to swallow hard and I cried, literally, to
God to help me to forgive them and I still am before God with this -
forgiveness is not easy but it can be done!!! I know none of us are perfect but
that is no excuse to deliberately hurt and use people!!! I am just sharing with
you what I feel God wants me to share!!! I by no means have it all together but
I write and encourage others with my experiences as God leads and I tell you
the truth as God gives it to me!!
I know how it feels to hurt
and abuse and have to forgive the person; I know the pain you struggle with,
been there, had that pain, and still go through it all the time!!! But God has
given me a ministry to help people who struggle with unforgiveness; there is nothing
I write about that I do not experience for myself - NOTHING!!! EVERYTHING, EVERY message
God gives me, I have experienced it and not in an easy way!!! I am not
going to lie to you and say forgiving people is easy; IT IS NOT!! But if you want to do the right thing and obey God's
Word then He will help you to forgive!!! Old hurts in our hearts must be dug out by God
before we can heal; we can hide them for only so long and they will resurface. Why
not allow God to operate on you today so you can get those hurts out and walk
in total forgiveness; go
to God with your struggles of forgiving people and He will help you; He
understands you and people!! Think about your destiny and put people in God's
hand!!
Remember, forgiveness is NOT a feeling, it is a choice!!!! Deal with each case of unforgiveness
individually; call each person out by name and forgive them in a time of prayer
before God; then listen to the Holy Spirit speak to you concerning those people
- sometimes He might not say anything and other times Holy Spirit might tell
you to go and apologize to the person (even if the person hurt you and you feel
you did nothing wrong - I have had that to happen to me, I had to go apologize
to this person who embarrassed me in public - now that was a hard oneJ) I am like "God she
started it and she hurt me" God said "God apologize!!" I obeyed
and went to her and apologize and to my surprise, I meant it from my heartJ). So whatever God tells you
to do or say, do it!
I am including the link below, just in case you
would like to complete my "Abused
Woman Ministries Importance of Forgiveness Recovery Program" (it is
the one that started May 28, 2013
and is free - all sessions are listed on my blog site but I am including the
link for the complete teaching, too - www.drdehooks.blogspot.com), I
am enclosing a Forgiveness Affidavit and
Prayer to pray against unforgiveness; how to use the prayer is on the
prayer itself. I am also including the link to Part 1 of "A Heart That Forgives" in case you did not
read it:
I pray that God will give you'll the strength
to forgive who you need to forgive. Remember, forgiveness forgiving a person
does not mean you go back in the relationship and pretend the person did not
hurt you; it means you free yourself, your heart from any ill feelings about
the person and let God deal with he/she. If you go back in the relationship and
the person is not delivered, you will have to forgive them over and over and
over; why put yourself through this-you will wear yourself out!! Just be led by
God in ALL relationships!!!
Forgive and live!!! Shake off the bondage of unforgiveness
once and for all!!!
Dr. Dorothy E. Hooks
“A Heart That Forgives”
by Kevin LeVar (Video) - http://youtu.be/indCvnD4Ji4
Enclosure:
Forgiveness Affidavit
Prayer
Against Unforgiveness
