Parents make sure you tell your children
you love them every day!!! No exceptions!!! It does not matter whether
or not if you believe they know you love them already!!! Tell them and
show them!! Don't holler at them and call them names or cuss at them!!
You will be creating dysfunctional children!! Fathers, it is imperative
that you show your daughters love; if you don't you will cause her to
look for love in men who will abuse her-I know, it happened to me more
than seven times (that is the number of marriages I was in-not counting
relationships where I was looking for love because my father never
showed me love and still do not today-no matter how much I have reached
out to him; he refuses to have a relationship with me). I am not saying
this to trash my father, let me make that clear-I love my father and I
have forgiven him-he probably does not know how to love and he was
probably treated the same way he treats me by his parents so he does not
know any better.
This is why I am talking to you parents
about loving your children NOW before they grow up and mistreat THEIR
children because of what they learned as a child!!! I used myself as an
example of what happened to me to show you what could and what most
likely will happen if there is no relationship between daughter and
father. Girls need more attention than boys but boys still need to be
shown love.
There is an emptiness within us that
requires us to have relationships with our parents, family and friends
(on the human side-of course the first relationship is between God and
ourselves). Each of the above people have a different place in our
hearts (you will not love them the same).
We all need love to survive!!! God showed
us the greatest form of love when He loved us while we were still
sinners and sent His only begotten Son Jesus to die for us!! We are to
love one another so people of the world will see we are children of
God!!! There is a bond between parent and children that cannot be
broken; I don't care what happen. I love my family and it does not
matter how they feel about me!!
A child at birth knows the difference
between its mother and someone else. A child depends on its mother to
take care of him/her if no one else does. A girl depends on her father
to protect her and love her if no one else does; her father is her super
hero!!! Parents again, take care of your own children!! Don't put them
off on other people to be abused and mistreated!!! Don't talk to them
any kind of way; they will NEVER forget it!!! No, that is a lie, time
does not heal old wounds; it makes them fester and eventually, it will
explode!!! The person who is in the way when it does happen, is going to
get the full rage of it!!
Why do you think there are serial
killers? Why you think there are social paths? Why do you think there
are people who have all types of mental disorders and social behaviors??
They did not choose to be that way; it came from the way they were
treated when they were a child. I have studied psychology for over 20
years and it has been proven that the way a child is treated from birth
on... determines how he or she will be when they grow up. If a child is
abused or in a household where the mother or others are abused, the
child will grow up thinking abuse is normal behavior; he or she will
either get into an abusive relationship or become the abuser themselves -
abuse is a learned behavior!!
This was on my heart to talk to you
parents!! And I know it came from God; I was sitting here doing
something else when it came to me to write this blog! God wanted me to
tell you to love and support your children; help them where you can-even
if they get into trouble-don't throw them away because they make
mistakes-love them anyway!!! God still love you when you make mistakes
and He help you-even when you are serving Him-He said He rain on the
just as well as the unjust so love your children through action and
telling them!! Hug them and tell you love them!! If you hug them while
they are young, when they get older and you try to hug them, they will
not pull away and think it is awkward!!
I am not just saying God put this on my
heart because I want you to read and believe it; that is up to you -
accept it or don't accept it - I don't lie on God!! But I pray as you
read this, the Holy Spirit will give you a witness in your spirit that
what I am writing here is true and God will heal you everywhere you hurt
and heal your broken relationships with your children and other family
members!! It is time for families to stop bickering, fussing, fighting,
hating, etc. each other over stupid stuff and come together in love!!
Put old junk behind you all and move forward!! It does not matter what
happened to cause you all to stop speaking, now is the time for families
to come together in love and unity.
The devil is the author of confusion and
he does not want families or anyone else to come together; he love to
cause confusion in relationships!!
Choose today to allow God to restore your
relationship with your family; if there never was one, as God to show
you what needs to be done to create one! Love your family no matter
what! It all begins with you!!
Peace to you and your families!! God loves you all sooooooooo much!!!
Dr. Dorothy E. Hooks
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