AWM Getting Beyond the Effects of Violence & Abuse Counseling Recovery Program: Complete Series - 10/1/13 to 1/28/14

The "AWM Violence & Abuse Recovery Program: Getting Beyond the After Effects of Violence & Abuse" which is a part of our "Tools for Triumphant Living" Christian Education Program which was developed by Pastor Charlana Kelly);" this is a re-post of the teaching from October 1, 2013 to January 28, 2014. The purpose of the Program is to help those who are recently out of abusive relationships or is still struggling with the effects from previous abuse. In this recovery program, I will help you through your recovery process one step at a time; this is a program God gave me and I am giving it to you as He gave it to me. The "AWM Violence & Abuse Recovery Program" is also an interactive Program just like the "AWM Importance of Forgiveness Recovery Program;" therefore, if you respond to me I will respond to you. You will have the opportunity to ask questions and discuss whatever part of the teaching you want either via email to me directly(drdehooks@abusedwoman.org), on the Recovery For Abused Women web site, on the Abused Woman Ministries, Inc. main Facebook page or on the Abused Woman Ministry School of Healing Facebook page.

This program is part of “Journey of Freedom: Pursuing Freedom From The Bondage of Traumatic Experiences" which is a declaration for 2013 and beyond that you are going to continually pursue your freedom from whatever that has had you in bondage for years, recently, or at present!! Continually pursuit of your freedom means that you will stay free by any means necessary!! You will no longer tolerate foolishness of any kind!! You will rise up and by God's grace take back everything that the enemy has stolen from you (your self-esteem, your self-worth, your freedom to live life as God designed you to, your boldness God gave you through Jesus, and much, much more!! This year, 2013, is the beginning of your life and the best is yet to come!!! God has a plan and purpose for your life and I am your life coach; I am here to show you how to be set free from bondages so you can know and embrace God's will for your life!!

Abused Woman Ministries, Inc. is dedicated to helping women, their children and men who have been abused! We do this by providing them  with  the  tools they need  to recover from  the bondage of domestic violence and abuse. However, we know that domestic violence/abuse is not the only traumatic event that can keep a person from having a healthy relationship! Therefore, we will also focus on recovering from the following traumatic experiences in the "Journey of Freedom: Pursuing Freedom from the Bondage of Traumatic Experiences:" sexual assault, rejection, abandonment, neglect, loneliness and whatever other traumatic experience God gives me to include.

I am dedicated to walking with you (I cannot do it for you – I am an instrument that God is using to help you recover – as He gives me your tools of recovery, I give them to you then you must decide to take this journey) so are you dedicated to take the journey?

I understand you have busy schedules so I have broken the program down into smaller parts to accommodate your busy schedule and I will post the new teaching once a week on Tuesday – that way you will have a week to study it. And if you cannot start this Program now, start when you get ready to start; it will always be available on our Blog site: www.drdehooks.blogspot.com

The journey may not be easy but we are in this together and we will hold each other up; no person left behind!!! If you have any problems contact me directly!! God got you in the palm of His hand and nothing and nobody will be able to pluck you out!! God will NEVER leave you nor forsake you!!Trust Him!!

The goal of "AWM Violence & Abuse Recovery Program" is:

1.  Violence & Abuse (Session One) – Goal: to define violence & abuse. To accomplish this goal, we will:

• List Types of Abuse - Part 1A - Oct 1, 2013
• Define each type - Part 1A-1 - Oct 1, 2013
• Discuss the Cause & Effect of Abuse - Part 1B - Oct 8, 2013
• Discuss the Power Wheel & Show Examples of Abuse - Part 1C - Oct 15, 2013
• Explain God’s final word on generational sin - Part 1D - Oct 22, 2013
• Closing Scriptures & Prayers Against Domestic Violence - Part 1D - Oct 22, 2013

2.  Violence & Abuse (Session Two) – Goal: to recognize Abuse & its Cycle. To accomplish this goal, we will:

• Review Previous Section – Part 2A - Oct 29, 2013
• Premise Before Next Section – Part 2A - Oct 29, 2013
• List the ways to recognize Abuse – Part 2B - Nov 5, 2013
• Learn & Understand the Cycles of Abuse – Part 2B-1 - Nov 5, 2013
• Explore how to Stop the Cycle of Abuse - Part 2C - Nov 12, 2013
• Establish a Personal Bill of Right - Part 2C - Nov 12, 2013

 3.  Violence & Abuse (Session Three) – Goal: to recognize Abuse & its Cycle. To accomplish this goal, we will:

• Understand Why Abusers Abuse - Part 3A - Dec 3, 2013
• Understand Why The Victim Stays - Part 3A - Dec 3, 2013
• Develop Strategies for Breaking the Cycle of Abuse - Parts 3B - Dec 10th/Part 3C - Jan 14, 2014/Part 3D - Jan 21, 2014/Part 3D-1 - Jan 28, 2014/Part 3D-2 - Jan 28, 2014

After this part of the "AWM Counseling Recover Program" the next part will be the "Anger Management Recovery Program;" I have enclosed an information sheet which explains the complete "Journey of Freedom" Program. We will take each part of the "Journey of Freedom" Program in small steps; therefore, it will be some months before you finish but you will receive a certificate when you finish and most of all, you will recover!

AWM Violence & Abuse CRP Complete Series 10-1-2013 to1-28-14

God bless as you take this journey of recovery!

Dr. Dorothy E. Hooks

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AWM Violence & Abuse Recovery Program: Session 3 Part 3C Jan 14, 2014

AWM Violence & Abuse Recovery Program: Getting Beyond the After Effects of Violence & Abuse Session 3 Part 3C Jan 14, 2014 - Recovery For Abused Women

AWM Violence & Abuse Recovery Program Agenda Session 3 Part 3C  – Jan 14, 2013

1. Start session with prayer – ask Holy Spirit to give you understanding and give you inner healing
2. Study each part of session highlighted – this program as well as the other ones focus on healing of the spirit, soul, & body
3. Rap Up – write down any questions you may have and send them to me before the next part is sent to you on Tuesday Jan 21, 2014
4. Homework: complete any homework for this session and return to me before for next Tuesday January 21, 2014
5. Close in Prayer – just pray what you feel in your heart
6. NEXT PART WILL BE POSTED TUESDAY JANUARY 21st

  

If you need to refresh yourselves on the previous sections or have not seen the previous sections, click links below to access them; this Program began on Oct 1, 2013. If you have any questions,

Click here for Complete Sessions From Oct 1, 2013 to Oct 3, 2013 Part 1

Click here for Complete Sessions From Oct 1, 2013 to Oct 3, 2013 Part 2

Click here for Session 3 Part 3b Dec 10, 2013

Violence & Abuse Recovery Program

Lesson: Session Three – Part 3C – January 14, 2014 – Study This

Open in prayer: Father I thank You for giving these group members Your wisdom, knowledge and understanding as they study this teaching; help them to recover completely in the Name of Jesus, Amen!

Session Three’s Goal: to recognize Abuse and its Cycle

• Understand Why Abusers Abuse – Part 3A – Dec 4th
• Understand Why The Victim Stays – Part 3A – Dec 4th
• Develop Strategies for Breaking the Cycle of Abuse – Part 3B – Dec 11th /Part 3C-Jan 14th/ Part 3D - Jan 21st/ Part 3D -1 & 3D-2-Jan 28th
  Strategies for breaking the Cycle of Abuse – Important Categories of Abuse:
      Covert or Controlling Abuse – Part 3C
  Here is a partial list of the abuser’s fiendishly inventive stratagems and mechanisms:
• Unpredictability and Uncertainty – The abuser acts unpredictably, on a whim, inconsistently, and irrationally; because he is giving his audience what they want. The victim or others, once they know the abuser, wait for his next twist and turn, his next blizzard whim, outburst, denial, or smile; they are waiting on him to make his next “move.” No wonder being in an abusive relationship is so much “drama;” the abuser is always putting on a horror show. The abuser makes sure that he is the only reliable element in the lives of his nearest and dearest – by shattering the rest of their world through his seemingly insane behavior. He perpetuates his stable presence in their lives – by destabilizing (destabilize means: to make something unstable in order to impair its functioning or bring about its collapse” - Encarta Dictionary.com), their own. So the abuser thinks if he make you unstable, you will see he is stable; he is trying to change your mindset and get you to think like he does (twisted). He actually thinks, he is normal (that’s why when and if they go to counseling, they tell the counsel, “there is nothing wrong with me; she [victim] is the problem”) and you are abnormal.

• TIP – Refuse to accept such behavior. Demand reasonably predictable and rational actions and reactions. Insist on respect for your boundaries, likings, preferences, and priorities.
• Disproportional Reactions - One of the favorite tools of manipulation in the abusers arsenal is the disproportionality of his reactions. He reacts with supreme rage to the slightest slight. Or, he would punish severely for what he perceives to be an offence against him, no matter how minor- Or, he would throw a temper tantrum over arty discord or disagreement, however gently and considerately expressed. Or, he would act inordinately attentive charming and tempting (even over-sexed, if need be).

• This ever-shifting code of conduct and the unusually harsh and arbitrarily applied penalties are premeditated. The victims are kept in the dark. Neediness and dependence on the source of “justice” meted and judgment passed — on the abuser — are thus guaranteed.
  TIP - Demand a just and proportional treatment. Reject or ignore unjust and unpredictable behavior. lf you are up to the inevitable confrontation, react in kind. Let him taste some of his own medicine.

• Dehumanization and Objectification (Abuse) – People have a need to believe in the empathic skills and basic good-heartedness of others- By dehumanizing and objectifying people — the abuser attacks the very foundations of human interaction. This is the “alien” aspect of abusers — they may be excellent imitations of fully formed adults but they are emotionally absent and immature. Abuse is so horrid, so repulsive so phantasmagoric (phan.tas.ma.go.ric – bizarre images; ever-changing scene) — that people recoil in terror.   It is then, with their defenses absolutely down, that they are the most susceptible and vulnerable to the abuser’s control. Physical, psychological, verbal and sexual abuses are all forms of dehumanization and objectification abuse.
          
  TIP – Never show your abuser that you are afraid of him. Do not negotiate with bullies. They are insatiable (ravenous; greedy). Do not succumb to blackmail. If things get rough - disengage, involve law enforcement officers, friends and colleagues, or threaten him (legally; sue). Do not! Keep your abuse a secret. Secrecy is the abusers weapon (that’s why he wants to isolate you). Never give him a second chance. React with your full arsenal to the first transgression.

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God bless as you take this journey of recovery!

Dr. Dorothy E. Hooks

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