New Recovery Program Begins Today!! "AWM Anger Management Recovery Program" Session One: Info & Overview Feb 4, 2014 - Recovery For Abused Women

New Recovery Program Begins Today!! "AWM Anger Management Recovery Program" Session One: Info & Overview Feb 4, 2014 - Recovery For Abused Women

The "AWM
Anger Management Recovery Program," which is a part of our "Tools for
Triumphant Living" Christian Education Program which was developed by
Charlana Kelly, purpose is to help those who are recently out of
abusive relationships or is still struggling with the effects from
previous abuse - have anger issues - if you are angry, you have not
fully forgiven the person or persons who hurt you. If that's the case,
you might need to go back through the "Importance of Forgiveness Recovery Program;" or take it first if you have not taken it before.

In
this recovery program, I will help you through your recovery process
one step at a time; this is a program God gave me and I am giving it to
you as He gave it to me. The "AWM Anger Management Recovery Program" is also an interactive Program just like the "AWM Importance of Forgiveness Recovery Program" and "AWM Violence & Abuse Recovery Program;"
therefore, you will have the opportunity to ask questions and discuss
whatever part of the teaching you want either via email to me directly (dehooks@abusedwoman.org), on the Recovery For Abused Women Blog web site, on the Abused Woman Ministries, Inc. main Facebook page or on the Abused Woman Ministry School of Healing Facebook page.



This program is part of “Journey of Freedom: Pursuing Freedom From The Bondage of Traumatic Experiences" which is a declaration for 2013 - 2014 and beyond that you are going to continually pursue your freedom from whatever
that has had you in bondage for years, recently, or at present using
the components of the Program!! Continually pursuit of your freedom
means that you will stay free by any means necessary!! You will no
longer tolerate foolishness of any kind!! You will rise up and by God's
grace take back everything that the enemy has stolen from you (your
self-esteem, your self-worth, your freedom to live life as God designed
you to, your boldness God gave you through Jesus, and much, much more!!




This year, 2014, is the beginning of your life and the best is yet to
come!!! God has a plan and purpose for your life and I am your life
coach; I am here to show you how to be set free from bondages so you can
know and embrace God's will for your life!!

Abused Woman Ministries, Inc.
is dedicated to helping women, their children and men who have been
abused! We do this by providing them with the tools they need to recover
from the bondage of domestic violence and abuse. However, we know that
domestic violence/abuse is not the only traumatic event that can keep a
person from having a healthy relationship!



Therefore, we will also focus on recovering from the following traumatic experiences in the "Journey of Freedom: Pursuing Freedom From The Bondage of Traumatic Experiences:" sexual assault, rejection, abandonment, neglect, loneliness and whatever other traumatic experience God gives me to include.

 

I
am dedicated to walking with you (I cannot do it for you – I am an
instrument that God is using to help you recover – as He gives me your
tools of recovery, I give them to you then you must decide to take this
journey) so are you dedicated to take the journey?

I
understand you have busy schedules so I have broken the program down
into smaller parts to accommodate your busy schedule and I will post the
new teaching once a week on Tuesday – that way you will have a week to
study it. And if you cannot start this Program now, start when you get
ready to start; it will always be available on our Blog site: www.abusedwoman.ning.com!

The
journey may not be easy but we are in this together and we will hold
each other up; no person left behind!!! If you have any problems contact
me directly!! God got you in the palm of His hand and nothing and
nobody will be able to pluck you out!! God will NEVER leave you nor forsake you!! Trust Him!!

The goal of "AWM Anger Management Recovery Program" is:

1.   Anger
Management (Session One – Part 1A) – Goal: to explain the God given
emotion, anger. To accomplish this goal in this session, we will:

 ·  Give an introduction about Anger

·  Complete the “Anger Ruler”

·  Repeat a Prayer and Declaration to Overcome Anger

2.   Anger
Management (Session Two) – Goal: to explain the God given emotion,
anger. To accomplish this goal in this session, we will:

 ·  Summarize what we learned from Session One – Part 2A

·  Define the Four Classes of Anger – Anger, Resentment, Rage & Fury, Wrath – Part 2B

·  Explain What Makes Us Angry – Part 2B

·  Learn Proper & Improper Ways to Respond to Anger – Part 2C

·  Have a Quiz on Anger – Complete First – Part 2C

3.  
Anger Management (Session Three) – Goal: to explain the God given
emotion, anger. To accomplish this goal in this session, we will:

 ·  Summarize what we learned from Session Two - Repeat of Session Two

·  Define the Four Classes of Anger – Anger, Resentment, Rage & Fury, Wrath

·  Explain What Makes Us Angry

·  Learn Proper & Improper Ways to Respond to Anger

4.  
Anger Management (Session Four) – Goal: to explain the God given
emotion, anger. To accomplish this goal in this session, we will:

 ·  Summarize what we learned from Session Three - Part 4A

·  Define the types of Anger expression: Suppression, Repression, & Uncontrolled Expression - Part 4B

·  Learn Relaxation techniques for controlling Anger - Part 4B

5.  
Anger Management (Session Five) – Goal: to explain the God given
emotion, anger. To accomplish this goal in this session, we will:

 ·  Summarize what we learned from Session Four - Part 5A

·  Discuss Anger Interruption Techniques and Strategies (AITs) - Part 5A

·  Learn Relaxation techniques for controlling Anger - Part 5B

·  Finish this session with an Anger Management Final Evaluation which must be passed before receiving Certificate of Completion - Part 5C

After this part of the "Journey of Freedom" Program the next part will be the "Emotional Healing" Series; I have enclosed an information sheet which explains the complete "Journey of Freedom" Program. We will take each part of the "Journey of Freedom" Program
in small steps; therefore, it will be some months before you finish but
you will receive a certificate when you finish and most of all, you
will recover!

 

The "AWM Anger Management Recovery Program" begins today, February 4, 2014;  if you have any questions, as I stated earlier, contact me via email: dehooks@abusedwoman.org.

Click here for PDF version of Session One: Info & Overview Feb 4, 2014

God bless as you take this journey of recovery!

Dr. Dorothy E. Hooks

 

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AWM Abuse Recovery Program: Getting Beyond the After Effects of Violence & Abuse Session Three Parts 3D1 & 3D2 Jan 28, 2014 - Recovery For Abused Women

AWM Abuse Recovery Program: Getting Beyond the After Effects of Violence & Abuse Session Three Parts 3D1 & 3D2 Jan 28, 2014 - Recovery For Abused Women

AWM Violence & Abuse Recovery Program Agenda Session 3 Part 3D1 &   Part 3D2

1. Start session with prayer – ask Holy Spirit to give you understanding and give you inner healing
   
    
2. Study each part of session highlighted – this program as well as the other ones focus on healing of the spirit, soul, & body
   
    
3. Rap Up – write down any questions you may have and send them to me before the next part is sent to you on Tuesday
   
    
4. Homework: complete any homework for this session and return to me before for next Tuesday 
   
    
5. Close in Prayer – just pray what you feel in your heart
   
    
6. THIS IS THE LAST PART OF THIS PROGRAM; THE "ANGER MANAGEMENT RECOVERY PROGRAM" WILL BEGIN FEBRUARY 4, 2014
   
    

Violence & Abuse Recovery Program

Lesson: Session Three – Part 3D – 1-January 28, 2014 – Study This

Open in prayer: Father I thank You for giving these group members Your wisdom, knowledge and understanding as they study this teaching; help them to recover completely in the Name of Jesus, Amen!




Session Three’s Goal: to recognize Abuse and its Cycle

• Understand Why Abusers Abuse – Part 3A – Dec 4th
• Understand Why The Victim Stays – Part 3A – Dec 4th
• Develop Strategies for Breaking the Cycle of Abuse – Part 3B – Dec 11th /Part 3C- Jan 14th / Part 3D - Jan 21st/ Part 3D -1 & 3D-2-Jan 28th

 

Strategies for breaking the Cycle of Abuse – Important Categories of Abuse:

Partial list of the abuser’s fiendishly inventive stratagems and mechanisms (continued):

• Control by Proxy - If all else fails, the abuser recruits friends, colleagues, mates, family members, the authorities, institutions, neighbors, the media, teachers — in short, third parties — to do his bidding. He uses them to persuade, coerce, threaten, stalk, offer, retreat tempt, convince, harass, communicate and otherwise manipulate his target- He controls these unaware instruments exactly as he plans to control his ultimate prey; he employs the same mechanisms and devices. And he dumps his props (the ones he uses) unceremoniously (callously) when the job is done. Another form of control by proxy is to engineer situations in which abuse is inflicted upon another person. Such carefully crafted scenarios of embarrassment and humiliation provoke social sanctions (condemnation, disgrace, or even physical punishment) against the victim.  Society or a social group become the instruments of the abuser.

TIP - Often the abusers proxies are unaware of their role. Expose him. Inform them. Demonstrate to them how they are being abused, misused, and plain used by the abuser. Trap your abuser. Treat him as he treats you (not in the sense of getting even but use tactics to expose him; once the enemy is exposed, he will either give up or run away. However, most likely, the abuser will not give up but runaway; to his next “mark” to make them a victim.) Involve others. Bring it into the open. Nothing like sunshine to disinfest abuse (stop the secret abuse).

 

Lesson: Session Three – Part 3D – 2 - January 28, 2014 – Study This

Session Three’s Goal: to recognize Abuse and its Cycle

• Understand Why Abusers Abuse – Part 3A – Dec 4th
• Understand Why The Victim Stays – Part 3A – Dec 4th
• Develop Strategies for Breaking the Cycle of Abuse – Part 3B – Dec 11th /Part 3C- Jan 14th / Part 3D - Jan 21st/ Part 3D -1 & 3D-2-Jan 28th

 

Strategies for breaking the Cycle of Abuse – Important Categories of Abuse:

Partial list of the abuser’s fiendishly inventive stratagems and mechanisms (continued):

•  Ambient Abuse - The fostering, breeding, and enhancement of an atmosphere of fear, intimidation, instability, unpredictability and irritation. There are no acts of traceable explicit abuse, nor any manipulative settings of control. Yet, the irksome feeling remains, a disagreeable foreboding, a premonition, a bad omen. In the long term, such an environment erodes the victim’s sense of self-worth and self-esteem. Self - confidence is shaken badly. Often, the victim adopts a paranoid (fearful; mistrustful; obsessed; unreasonable; suspicious) or schizoid (schizoid means: “tending toward schizophrenia - showing some of the symptoms of schizophrenia such as withdrawal into the self and a tendency to fantasize” – Encarta Dictionary.com; thus, becoming a paranoid schizophrenic) stance and thus renders herself exposed even more to criticism and judgment. The roles are thus reversed: the victim is considered mentally deranged and the abuser — the suffering soul; abusers are hit men for the devil.

TIP - Run! Get away! Ambient abuse often develops to overt and violent abuse. You don’t owe anyone an explanation - but you owe yourself a life, Bail out.




Violence in the family often follows other forms of more subtle and long - term abuse: verbal, emotional, and psychological sexual, or financial. It is closely correlated with alcoholism, drug consumption, intimate-partner homicide, teen pregnancy, infant and child mortality, spontaneous abortion, reckless behaviors, suicide, and the onset of mental health disorders.

 

Most abusers and batterers are males — but a significant minority is women. This being a “Women’s Issue”, the problem was swept under the carpet for generations and only recently has it come to public awareness.




Yet, even today, society for instance, through the court and the mental health systems — largely ignores domestic violence and abuse in the family. This induces feelings of shame and guilt in the victims and “legitimizes” the role of the abuser.




Violence in the family is mostly spousal — one spouse beating, raping, or     otherwise physically harming and torturing the other. But children are also and often victims — either directly, or indirectly- Other vulnerable familial groups include the elderly and the disabled.




Abuse and violence cross geographical and cultural boundaries and social and economic strata. It is common among the rich and the poor, the well-educated and the less so, the young and the middle-aged, city dwellers and rural folk. It is a universal phenomenon.

Conclusion: This concludes the “Violence & Abuse” Recovery Program!

Handout on “Long Term Effects of Violence & Abuse” Attached!

 

 Click here for PDF version of Violence & Abuse Recovery Session 3 Parts 3D1 & 3D2




God bless you on your journey to recovery!




Dr. Dorothy E. Hooks

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AWM Abuse Recovery Program: Getting Beyond the After Effects of Violence & Abuse Session Three Part 3D Jan 21, 2014 - Recovery For Abused Women

AWM Abuse Recovery Program: Getting Beyond the After Effects of Violence & Abuse Session Three Part 3D Jan 21, 2014 - Recovery For Abused Women

AWM Violence & Abuse Recovery Program Agenda Session 3 Part 3D  – Jan 21, 2014

1. Start session with prayer – ask Holy Spirit to give you understanding and give you inner healing
    
2. Study each part of session highlighted – this program as well as the other ones focus on healing of the spirit, soul, & body
    
3. Rap Up – write down any questions you may have and send them to me before the next part is sent to you on Tuesday
    
4. Homework: complete any homework for this session and return to me before for next Tuesday 
    
5. Close in Prayer – just pray what you feel in your heart
    
6. NEXT PART WILL BE POSTED TUESDAY JANUARY 28th
    

 

 Violence & Abuse Recovery Program

Lesson: Session Three – Part 3D – January 21, 2014 – Study This

Open in prayer: Father I thank You for giving these group members Your wisdom, knowledge and understanding as they study this teaching; help them to recover completely in the Name of Jesus, Amen!

Session Three’s Goal: to recognize Abuse and its Cycle

• Understand Why Abusers Abuse – Part 3A – Dec 4th
• Understand Why The Victim Stays – Part 3A – Dec 4th
• Develop Strategies for Breaking the Cycle of Abuse – Part 3B – Dec 11th /Part 3C- Jan 14th / Part 3D - Jan 21st/ Part 3D -1 & 3D-2-Jan 28th
   
  Strategies for breaking the Cycle of Abuse – Important Categories of Abuse:
  Partial list of the abuser’s fiendishly inventive stratagems and mechanisms (continued):
   

• Abuse of Information – From the first moments of an encounter with another person, the abuser is on the prowl; he collects information. The more he knows about his potential victim – the better able he is to coerce, manipulate, charm, extort or convert it “to the cause”. The abuser does not hesitate to misuse the information he gleaned, regardless of it intimate nature or the circumstances in which he obtained it. This is a powerful tool in his armory.

TIP - Be guarded. Don’t be too forthcoming in a first or casual meeting. Gather intelligence. Be yourself. Don’t misrepresent your wishes, boundaries, preferences, priorities, and red lines. Do not behave inconsistently. Do not go back on your word. Be firm and resolute.

• Impossible Situations - The abuser engineers impossible, dangerous, unpredictable, unprecedented, or highly specific situations in which he is sorely needed. The abuser makes sure that his knowledge, his skills, his connections or his traits are the only ones applicable and the most useful in the situations that he, himself, wrought. The abuser generates his own indispensability.

TIP - Stay away from such quagmires. Scrutinize every offer and suggestion, no matter how innocuous. Prepare backup plans. Keep others informed of your whereabouts and apprised of your situation. Be vigilant and doubting. Do not be gullible and suggestible. Better safe than sorry.        

Click here for PDF version of Part 3D Jan 21 2014

God bless as you take this journey of recovery!

Dr. Dorothy E. Hooks

 

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AWM Violence & Abuse Recovery Program: Session 3 Part 3C Jan 14, 2014

AWM Violence & Abuse Recovery Program: Getting Beyond the After Effects of Violence & Abuse Session 3 Part 3C Jan 14, 2014 - Recovery For Abused Women

AWM Violence & Abuse Recovery Program Agenda Session 3 Part 3C  – Jan 14, 2013

1. Start session with prayer – ask Holy Spirit to give you understanding and give you inner healing
2. Study each part of session highlighted – this program as well as the other ones focus on healing of the spirit, soul, & body
3. Rap Up – write down any questions you may have and send them to me before the next part is sent to you on Tuesday Jan 21, 2014
4. Homework: complete any homework for this session and return to me before for next Tuesday January 21, 2014
5. Close in Prayer – just pray what you feel in your heart
6. NEXT PART WILL BE POSTED TUESDAY JANUARY 21st

  

If you need to refresh yourselves on the previous sections or have not seen the previous sections, click links below to access them; this Program began on Oct 1, 2013. If you have any questions,

Click here for Complete Sessions From Oct 1, 2013 to Oct 3, 2013 Part 1

Click here for Complete Sessions From Oct 1, 2013 to Oct 3, 2013 Part 2

Click here for Session 3 Part 3b Dec 10, 2013

Violence & Abuse Recovery Program

Lesson: Session Three – Part 3C – January 14, 2014 – Study This

Open in prayer: Father I thank You for giving these group members Your wisdom, knowledge and understanding as they study this teaching; help them to recover completely in the Name of Jesus, Amen!

Session Three’s Goal: to recognize Abuse and its Cycle

• Understand Why Abusers Abuse – Part 3A – Dec 4th
• Understand Why The Victim Stays – Part 3A – Dec 4th
• Develop Strategies for Breaking the Cycle of Abuse – Part 3B – Dec 11th /Part 3C-Jan 14th/ Part 3D - Jan 21st/ Part 3D -1 & 3D-2-Jan 28th
  Strategies for breaking the Cycle of Abuse – Important Categories of Abuse:
      Covert or Controlling Abuse – Part 3C
  Here is a partial list of the abuser’s fiendishly inventive stratagems and mechanisms:
• Unpredictability and Uncertainty – The abuser acts unpredictably, on a whim, inconsistently, and irrationally; because he is giving his audience what they want. The victim or others, once they know the abuser, wait for his next twist and turn, his next blizzard whim, outburst, denial, or smile; they are waiting on him to make his next “move.” No wonder being in an abusive relationship is so much “drama;” the abuser is always putting on a horror show. The abuser makes sure that he is the only reliable element in the lives of his nearest and dearest – by shattering the rest of their world through his seemingly insane behavior. He perpetuates his stable presence in their lives – by destabilizing (destabilize means: to make something unstable in order to impair its functioning or bring about its collapse” - Encarta Dictionary.com), their own. So the abuser thinks if he make you unstable, you will see he is stable; he is trying to change your mindset and get you to think like he does (twisted). He actually thinks, he is normal (that’s why when and if they go to counseling, they tell the counsel, “there is nothing wrong with me; she [victim] is the problem”) and you are abnormal.

• TIP – Refuse to accept such behavior. Demand reasonably predictable and rational actions and reactions. Insist on respect for your boundaries, likings, preferences, and priorities.
• Disproportional Reactions - One of the favorite tools of manipulation in the abusers arsenal is the disproportionality of his reactions. He reacts with supreme rage to the slightest slight. Or, he would punish severely for what he perceives to be an offence against him, no matter how minor- Or, he would throw a temper tantrum over arty discord or disagreement, however gently and considerately expressed. Or, he would act inordinately attentive charming and tempting (even over-sexed, if need be).

• This ever-shifting code of conduct and the unusually harsh and arbitrarily applied penalties are premeditated. The victims are kept in the dark. Neediness and dependence on the source of “justice” meted and judgment passed — on the abuser — are thus guaranteed.
  TIP - Demand a just and proportional treatment. Reject or ignore unjust and unpredictable behavior. lf you are up to the inevitable confrontation, react in kind. Let him taste some of his own medicine.

• Dehumanization and Objectification (Abuse) – People have a need to believe in the empathic skills and basic good-heartedness of others- By dehumanizing and objectifying people — the abuser attacks the very foundations of human interaction. This is the “alien” aspect of abusers — they may be excellent imitations of fully formed adults but they are emotionally absent and immature. Abuse is so horrid, so repulsive so phantasmagoric (phan.tas.ma.go.ric – bizarre images; ever-changing scene) — that people recoil in terror.   It is then, with their defenses absolutely down, that they are the most susceptible and vulnerable to the abuser’s control. Physical, psychological, verbal and sexual abuses are all forms of dehumanization and objectification abuse.
          
  TIP – Never show your abuser that you are afraid of him. Do not negotiate with bullies. They are insatiable (ravenous; greedy). Do not succumb to blackmail. If things get rough - disengage, involve law enforcement officers, friends and colleagues, or threaten him (legally; sue). Do not! Keep your abuse a secret. Secrecy is the abusers weapon (that’s why he wants to isolate you). Never give him a second chance. React with your full arsenal to the first transgression.

Click here for PDF version of Session 3 Part 3c Jan 14 2014

God bless as you take this journey of recovery!

Dr. Dorothy E. Hooks

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